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I think I am about to become my mother in one fell swoop. I also think I completely understand now why she was the uncool mother along with the uncool father who called ahead to find out if parties would be serving alcohol and if parents would be present.Truthfully my mother was a bit ahead of her time on this.  I graduated high school in 1981.  But I am also alive to write this post, so while my sister and I mocked our mother and father ever so slightly on this a million years ago, well in retrospect was she wrong?

Today, more than ever there seems to be a weird dynamic going on between some parents and kids.  No parent wants to be labeled uncool, but some parents seem to forgo actual parenting for this odd popularity contest.  It is human nature to want to be friends with our children, but the job first and foremost is to be a parent, right?

So what the hell was this father in East Goshen thinking over the weekend? What am I talking about?  Why what lots of people are talking about this morning which are headlines regionally of an underage liquored up teen party where parents knowingly served minors alcohol on St. Patrick’s Day weekend last weekend.

Here are the dockets: Docket 1, Docket 2

Will kids drink? Yes, and don’t say no unless you were never a teenager.  But for an adult to in essence sponsor a party where a teen is found unconscious and covered in vomit and other parents could not reach their kids?  Not acceptable.

This story unfolding is every parents’ nightmare when it comes to teenagers.  You want your kids to have the autonomy they crave, yet you still have to keep an eye on them to ensure they make smart decisions and stay safe. And then there is the added thing of having other parents as trusted partners in this process.

We can’t keep our kids wrapped in cocoons of cotton wool, but seriously, where was this parent’s head?  I bet there were parents of kids at this party trusting this guy to keep kids safe, and I also bet there were other parents who did not know their kids attended this party.

Talk about teach your children well.

Sorry, but not only is this every parent’s nightmare but this is also the kind of parental antics that just make me very angry. So uncool.  Utterly irresponsible.

Here is actual WEGO press release for underage party . Below are links to some of the media coverage.  There is a lot on this.

Chesco father, son charged over illegal party

Walter F. Naedele, Inquirer Staff Writer

Posted: Tuesday, March 19, 2013, 3:01 AM

The underage drinking party was one complaint.

Then there were the two fathers out on the lawn who could not contact their daughters, thought to be at the Saturday night party inside the East Goshen Township, Chester County, house.

And then there were the hosts of the party, who allegedly refused to let police see what was happening inside the house in the 1600 block of Bow Tree Drive.

After finding what was inside – including several teenagers hiding in a basement crawl space – the Westtown-East Goshen Regional Police Department arrested Raymond Bonnett, 46, and his son Elliott, 18, and charged them with hosting a party at their home for 19 underage drinkers on the eve of St. Patrick’s Day.

The most serious charges were not for hosting the party, but two felony counts of “interference with custody of children.”

After more than an hour in which the Bonnett son ordered police officers off the family property and refused to let them enter the house, they found one juvenile “unconscious and covered in vomit on the basement couch,” according to an affidavit of probable cause.

Police charge father, son with hosting underage drinking party

CBS 3: Father, Son Accused Of Hosting Underage Drinking Party At Chester County Home.  By Brad Segall

The Unionville Times: Father, son accused of hosting teen booze party