Today is an anniversary of sorts in our family.
14 years to the day when we lost my father to cancer.
13 years to the day when we lost my cousin Suzy to cancer.
Both people who played a big part in my life.
But it’s a day to remember them with smiles and happy tears. I don’t think we should bury them in memories of sadness.
I have never actually really written about this before. And today it just seemed like time.￼
My late father was at times a complicated man, but well-loved by us all. He was often described as a Renaissance man by his friends, and there are a lot of things that I get in part from him￼. He taught me how to garden. He gave me my Christmas disease. He taught me how to go to antique shows to educate my eye and when I was very little he put me on top of his shoulders so I could see all of the Van Gogh paintings on exhibit at the Philadelphia Museum of Art.￼ as an adult I would do things like go to estate sales with him.
I have lots of memories of my father like little Kodachrome snap shots in my head. The same with my cousin Suzy.
Suzy was my mother’s niece, goddaughter, and my first cousin.￼￼￼￼ To me for most of my life she was also like the big sister I didn’t have because technically in my immediate family I was the big sister. As a little girl, I remember her sleeping over and spending the night on the sofa when we didn’t have a guest room – my parents were restoring an old house in Society Hill and for my younger childhood years a lot of the time it was like living in a construction site.￼
Suzy got married young, and my parents hosted her wedding. She got married out of our parish church – Old Saint Joseph’s on Willing’s Alley. The reception was at my parents’ house in Society Hill￼￼, by that time was put enough together at least on two floors that we were able to have the wedding.
Jimmy Duffy and Sons did the catering. They would in later years, cater my sister’s wedding, and mine as well￼￼. From my cousin Suzy’s wedding￼, I have a few distinct memories, including sitting with my cousin Carol on the steps to the back staircase off the breakfast room eating hors d’oeuvres. I remember we were specifically eating water chestnuts wrapped in bacon￼, which is why when I got married, they were added to the list of hors d’oeuvres we served.
From Suzy I got my love of junking and flea markets. She also was a Christmas fanatic (she would organize caroling parties every a Christmas season) and liked to go in and out of antique stores.
Suzy and her first husband raised their daughters in Newtown, Bucks County. She lived for her girls. I would spend a lot of weekends with them during those years and we would do things like get up at the crack of dawn and go to Rice’s Market in New Hope when it was really cool. We would spend days exploring small towns like New Hope and Lambertville and Pennington and other places along the river on the New Jersey and Pennsylvania side.￼￼￼￼￼￼ I treasure those times and it was so much fun! I remember going into a store with her once on the New Jersey side that was all Russian nesting dolls and Fiestaware.
So much time has passed since they both left us and so much in all of our lives has happened. That’s the thing of life isn’t it? It goes on. And I think while we have to mourn the loss of loved ones, I also think we should celebrate them by trying to live our best lives.￼￼
Life is for the living and we shouldn’t squander it.
Anyway, that’s it from me this morning. Remembering with love, my father Peter and cousin Suzy.
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