the new feminism or revisiting old issues?

I don’t know if any of you are watching the HBO/MAX series on the life of Julia Child called “Julia”. I have always been a fan of the French Chef, and I love to cook and I have a bunch of her cookbooks so I really enjoy the show, which began before I was even born. I also enjoy the show and the way that it has blended the era in which she started in TV with the world around them.

In one of the episodes Julia Child has an encounter with Betty Friedan. My research indicates this encounter never actually happened. But another article I read said that the show was perhaps exploring Julia’s brand of feminism versus Betty’s. And that made me think of how do we define feminists and feminism today? The show makes valid points, it also makes you ponder sometimes why as women we are our own sex’s worst enemies.

When I look back on life, you naturally start when we were growing up. Especially if you grew up in an area like the Main Line, which isn’t necessarily the real world. Graduating high school in 1981 meant sure we were being groomed to have the big female careers, but conversely we were also still being groomed to be lovely hostesses in our husbands’ homes. And no one told us or showed which choice was the right choice for us as individuals.

My career was not some giant six-figure career with fancy cars and penthouse apartments. I think that was harder on my mother for a lot of years as opposed to me. Just like it was hard on her when I was single, and sometimes she made me feel like that was a huge flaw in me as a human being. I liked what I did. Never wanted to just be with a partner or date, or even marry just so I could say I did that. I wanted it to be right.

But what I discovered when I got what should have been a career dream job is I didn’t really like it as much as the other things I had done all the other years. But it was an accomplishment. I will note that I was definitely deserving of a six-figure salary for a lot of those years, and I honestly never attained it. However, you know what? That was fine. I wasn’t a millionaire but I had enough money to take care of myself most of the time, and sometimes it was tight and I managed. And the truth of the matter is, employers are cheap. The key to their particular brand of success is not making you wealthy, but making them wealthy. Just another version of plantation mentality.

I have also always been opinionated. Sometimes that’s welcome in a corporate setting, sometimes not. as I entered into my 30s I began to realize there were other things out there. There wasn’t just being on socially correct junior committees and going to the right parties and being seen with the right people. There were the things in life that you took a look at and made you realize that all the people you were on committees with would always need you more than you needed them.

Gradually I became active in my community. I became kind of a community/grassroots activist of sorts. But sometimes who I was clashed with some of the people I was a community activist with, as well as people I grew up with . And sometimes these two sides of me clashed within myself. It took me until I was well into my 40s to understand that I could be both of those people.

And then there is the whole me as I have gotten older. I married later than a lot of people, and when I was marrying for the first time a lot of people I know were not only divorcing but onto subsequent spouses. Sometimes in that part of my world I felt judged. And I don’t really know why I think it’s just because I kind of did me all of these years. Not always easily because as we grow we learn more about ourselves. Especially as women.

Sometimes now, I feel myself judged by an entirely different generation of women. I am a stepparent and I never had my own children, somehow that goes against you and I don’t quite know how. It would’ve been nice if I had been able to bear my own children, but medically that was never possible for me, and it just never would’ve presented itself as an opportunity in the more traditional “childbearing years.”

And there’s the whole idea of feminism and having it all. But at on the eve of 58 I still wonder if you can have it all? Or is what makes you happy in fact actually having it all? I think it’s that. I think having it all, is being content with your life. And maybe that runs counter to feminism. Maybe I personally run counter to feminism because I like to do things like garden and cook and keep my house. I don’t think for years you were supposed to admit that out loud.

I look around me and we all spend a lot of our time as women in general, telling everyone else what they should do with their lives. And now once again we are coming full circle to wondering if a bunch of folks in judicial robes are going to be telling women what they should do, and more importantly what they should do with their bodies?

Oh yes, readers, I am going there. No matter what my personal choices are vis-à-vis my own body, I have never believed it was my place to tell another woman what she should do with hers. And I have always resented it when those in clerical robes and judicial robes have tried to tell us what it meant to be a woman. And I resent most of all the politicians who take this issue on on both sides and pander.

Feminism in the 60s and 70s gave women the power to be whom they felt they should be. We have in a sense, enjoyed that since then. But we’ve all gotten lackadaisical and somewhat complacent. And that’s men and women, and look where it’s gotten us in this country? Politically, we are a cesspool.

I also get tired of those who go around proselytizing in political campaigns and even within our own communities telling us what our families are supposed to look like, and what our family values according to them are supposed to be. They also want to tell us what our sexual preferences and gender identity are supposed to be, and there’s no room for anything else because it makes all of those people uncomfortable.

All of this behavior has extended itself into our schools, our libraries, our daily lives. The ultimate echo chamber is social media and certain social media groups. And what they don’t understand is they are free to have their opinions but rights are not subjective and they don’t get to foist their opinions on us and tell us that is what we are supposed to do.

All of these people want to tell you that their First Amendment rights are of more value than ours. They also want to tell you how the life during the last political administration and president was so wonderful, and today is a mess. I am wondering if they will ever be able to pull their heads out of their collective asses and realize everything they are bemoaning as a mess today is a result of what we went through with the last administration? Do I think that the current administration is doing a particularly fabulous job? To be honest no not all of the time, but then you look at realistically what they were left to deal with. Also politics has gotten ridiculously reactive and over-reactive. Being a moderate is like a four letter word.

Then you look at what we are dealing with today. You have the people who are saying that they are so against socialism and totalitarianism and they are true conservatives yet they don’t know the basics of the United States Constitution, our history as a country, and what it is to be a true conservative. Truthfully, a lot of those people don’t even realize that they are closer to socialism, communism, and totalitarianism than anyone. Sometimes I wonder if what the U.S. is experiencing today is actually closer to what Great Britain saw in post WWII England? That was some truly ugly stuff for a while. And it seems to be here today.

What we are living today is what it’s like trying to exist in a country full of political extremism. And as women in this country, I think we are feeling that acutely. And I think as women we are looking at a horrible future for future generations of American women, if we all don’t speak up.

And we as women all need to stop thinking that there’s always something wrong with who we are because of how other people see us. I realized that again this weekend when a lot of high school reunions took place. Ladies, we are who we are, and just because the “it girls“ from back in the day still think they are “it girls” it doesn’t mean they are ….it just means perhaps they are stuck in a time warp. Interestingly enough, most of them still do not know how to behave, which is something I find very amusing personally.

When it comes to women there will always be strivers. There are strivers in the personal sense of those who have amazing career goals and attain them. Then there are the strivers who are perhaps not as appealing. Like social strivers.

The social strivers are often the women who are trying to run as fast as possible from what they’re from. Instead of embracing what they’re from, they only wish to project essentially a fake persona and are often label conscious, trendy Wendy types.

Where women always will fall short in this world is not embracing that part of who you are based on what you’re from. And maybe what you’re from isn’t what you feel is socially acceptable, but it’s stupid to try to deny it because everybody knows it anyway.

There’s nothing wrong with a woman who doesn’t color her hair, doesn’t have plastic surgery, and doesn’t get Botox and other fillers every few weeks from not even their dermatologist half of the time, but a spa or salon somewhere.

Women as a species will always be competitive on some level with other women. It’s human nature. But the thing is it’s how you use that competitive nature, and ironically some of the most hyper competitive women I’ve ever met in my entire life I’ve also been among the most insecure.

I’m not saying we’re supposed to all stop shaving our legs and armpits and we’re supposed to sing Kumbaya around the campfire, what I’m saying is maybe as part of the brand of the new feminism we need to actually be real.

So what is the new feminism? I’m still not really sure. But I do think part of it is being able to speak our peace. And I think part of being real is actually acknowledging you don’t want to lift up every woman. Because sometimes there are just some women who piss you off, or irritate you, or you question their inherent value as human beings and just do not like. And that’s OK as a woman to actually say that out loud. You can be your authentic self without worrying about having to be perfect every five minutes.

Obviously I don’t have the answers, and these are just some of my rambling thoughts. I’m sure not everyone will like what I have written today, but these are things I’m thinking about.

Thanks for stopping by.

saint theresa of west whiteland needs to go.

Saint Theresa is Theresa Hogan Santalucia is a Supervisor of West Whiteland. She’s a Democrat, and a bad one at that. She is what they call in the trade, a DemoCRAP.

And before we go any further, she is a POLITICIAN and I can utilize my First Amendment Rights to criticize her as a politician.

She has left herself wide open to criticism because of HER OWN ACTIONS. She’s been covered before, and I love how she contacts people at night. See this post. Maybe she’s a vampire? Also see this other post.

She goes on social media rants occasionally, and she doesn’t get the difference between public posts on Facebook (little globe) and private posts, but given how she wigs out, people take screen shots. Then she goes all pitiful pearl on people. See next screen shot as an example:

She is literally a bully as a local politician to people’s faces and at public meetings, yet ALL criticism of her is she is being bullied? The plurality, the public can criticize, berate, or compliment her. And let’s talk about HER behavior. The latest? GARBAGE GATE.

This presentation was done by new Supervisor Brian Dunn. It is a common sense approach to why in the Sam hell does West Whiteland think the residents still want cheap plastic trash bags that aren’t readily available, are cheap quality that break, and places like Wawa and other store JACK the prices to gouge residents? And have you ever driven on West Whiteland Roads and wondered why there is littler in lots of places? These bags. But oh no, Theresa can’t listen she has to make a scene at the meetings and then COMMENT into the night on Brian Dunn’s supervisor Facebook page? And Mr. Solicitor Darling, she is a PUBLIC official commenting, a politician. Just like she was when she tried to stop you from becoming solicitor in West Whiteland and basically called Brian Dunn a crook, so what gives? We know you don’t want to babysit a post menopausal child, but hey someone has to, right?

#GarbageGate also begs the question of does this woman, an elected official, actually READ her Supervisor packets before meetings? Because she is remarkably ill prepared every single meeting isn’t she? And what is her relationship to staff like for example that codes person who wears biker chick makeup and likes to fluff her hair on Zoom? And does Saint Theresa demand staff do her bidding? If various Rights to Know were submitted to their knows everything Right to Know person regarding Theresa’s correspondence, text messages, etc, to others, what ALL would turn up? I mean that whole write me a check now Bethy of it all that came out sure was interesting?

Here are various screen shots including one where she calls a resident a liar even if she can’t spell it:

So she went to the Supervisors State conference. She talked about it:

I thought for that thing you could sign up ahead of time? Doesn’t seem like she planned very well did it? Or was she too busy having a mini-break on West Whiteland Township and her residents? Hey she posted the badges indicating it was play time, so the door is wide open to ask and doesn’t it seem like she was there for HER and not West Whiteland? And her badge says “veteran” so how come she doesn’t seem to know so much? And oh apparently she did not like her accommodations.

Saint Theresa should not be in public office. #RESIGNTheresa

malvern institute wants to expand…east goshen planning commission meeting TONIGHT may 4, 2022 at 7pm

The Malvern Institute along King Road is submitting expansion plans again. It is on the East Goshen website. This affects East Whiteland residents AND Willistown residents, along with East Goshen residents. In recent years there have been issues with the facility in eyes of neighbors, it’s no big secret they are neither an easy institutional institutional neighbor to have or in my opinion do they really care about the residential neighborhoods that surround them.

If you want your voice heard on this, attend the planning meeting this evening May 4 at 7 PM and other meetings on the topic..

help wanted

The “ladies” have posted a help wanted sign. I thought it would be nice to share so everyone had this opportunity. After all I don’t know about you but are you comfortable with ballots being scanned by people that think January 6, 2021 was OK? Are you comfortable with people with their perspectives scanning your vote properly?

Anyway in case any of you are interested here’s the information in the screenshot above. And more accurately below.

I did find the actual job description and here are screenshots:

a love note or two

I just like the Flamingos at the Philadelphia Zoo. They have nothing in fact to do with this post, they just make it prettier.

This post is about the love notes I receive to this website. Made up email addresses with identifiable I.P. addresses which I can indeed publish because these trolls seek me out. If you visit a website, even social media, you are logged. By I.P. address. Sometimes you are even easy to be found by a fake e-mail address. These trolls always have tells that give them away, don’t they?


Truthwins always

Get off your high horse.. And fix your barn. it looks like crap from the road. You can always tell a jealous writer when they attack truth. Keep eating your donuts! Oink oink

~kiss My Ass

Laughing OUTLOUD

Crappy stuff. Wake up.. There is a war going on around you. But keep buying, and keep eating your donuts… keep your head in the sand like a good little brainless monkey!!!. oink oink…

~trumpone

Both comments are in fact from Downingtown. Both say “keep eating your donuts and oink, oink”. Commenting on a post I wrote about the spring preview at Life’s Patina and saying it was crappy stuff made me wonder exactly who it was, because that is a tell.

At the end of the day, these are the kind of people local police departments already have on their radar. These comments in particular are definitely from an unhappy man.

As a woman, every time you speak your truth to your power, you are a target. We are supposed to be bobbleheads and nod and say soothing things. I am not a bobblehead. So I become a pig, a bitch, hysterical female, essentially whatever pops into their heads to denigrate me that particular day. My “fans” are men and women. Both always give themselves away in their desire to be anonymous.

Today, I am calling a Neanderthal a troglodyte in this case.

Why?

Because I can.

Kiss kiss haters.

ronnie has been officially censured, so now what?

Ronnie the Rep, Ronnie the Realtor, whatever he wants to call himself has been OFFICIALLY censured. By the Chester County Republican Party as of end of last week.

Yet he still appears to be running as a Republican? So now he is a fake Republican? Or what? And look who loves him? Jerry from the Great Valley School Board meetings? HA! (Figures!)

And to those who think Daily Local Reporter Michael Rellehan is basing articles on what I wrote? Better read again. He did not. I don’t secretly run townships or newspapers, and wow don’t some of you have anything better to do? He is a journalist who has been a journalist for years. Trust me, he doesn’t create articles off of what bloggers write, let alone ME. Be glad there are still local journalists writing. I am.

Here is an excerpt from Michael Rellehan’s latest article. Read it.

It’s official: GOP censures Vogel over posts, reaction

By MICHAEL P. RELLAHAN | mrellahan@dailylocal.com |
PUBLISHED: May 2, 2022 at 11:50 a.m. | UPDATED: May 2, 2022 at 12:38 p.m.

WEST CHESTER — Ron Vogel, a Republican candidate for the 6th Congressional District seat, told the chairman of the Chester County GOP that social media posts attributed to him that are of questionable taste were “no big deal,” and that his intention was to deny their authenticity to reporters asking them — even as he acknowledged that they were his……According to a copy of the censure obtained by the MediaNews Group, the party’s executive committee under the auspices of Chairman Dr. Gordon Eck, demanded that Vogel immediately terminate his campaign and forgo any and all benefits and support that the party was supposed to provide him as one of two recommended candidates for the seat now held by Democratic U.S. Rep. Chrissy Houlahan…..No such action has ever been taken against a local GOP candidate for such high office in recent memory.

Meanwhile, Vogel went on the offensive over the weekend, posting a nearly five-minute-long video on his campaign website saying that criticism against his past social media posts as anti-semitic, sexist and racist were based on “half-truths” promoted by his political opponents……In a conversation that month with committee members and its vice chairwoman, Vogel admitted to sending or receiving the posts many years ago, but that his “political advisors” advised him to “just ignore the situation.” Those he spoke with urged him not to ignore the issue and to address it. But it was not until a reporter from the MediaNews Group began asking questions about the posts in late April that Eck personally spoke to the candidate about the matter, according to the resolution.

~michael rellehan Daily Local news 5/2/22

However, the Republican Party in Chester County needs to deal with it’s dysfunction. Starting over with new people in West Chester would be a start. It is populated with types who do things there because they seek an office elsewhere, correct? Like you know certain employees who have an eye on a judicial seat after they couldn’t get another office? (Hey don’t shoot the messenger, people talk.)

Even PoliticsPA is talking.

So I have said it before and I am saying it again: The Chester County Republican Party needs to own their part in candidates like this. We saw it LAST year with the school board races. They have very few actual quality candidates, so it’s anyone with a pulse running it seems. (Truthfully, sometimes not much better on the Democrat side where I ask for the primary, does State Rep. Kristine Howard have a pulse?)

People are attracted to candidates like Ron Vogel for all sorts of reasons. A lot of it is people don’t do their own research and seem to act like they have a mental capacity of a gnat. Others, and this has been happening for years in Chester County, feel disenfranchised by their county party so they pick less than stellar candidates to get behind as a way of almost making a dumb ass statement.

At least Chester County Republicans took this step, but Ron isn’t done with them, after all look who he emulates?

I would say at least this ugly chapter of Chester County politics is closed, but reality is “but wait, there’s more.” (We just haven’t seen it all unfold yet.)

spring barn sale weekend at life’s patina!

Life’s Patina is a beautiful, happy place to visit. The seasonal barn sales are fun to go to. It’s a dream of creativity and just pretty things to look at.

Friday, April 29. 10 AM – 5 PM

Saturday, April 30th. 10 AM – 5 PM

Sunday, May 1st. 10 AM – 4 PM

A portion of Life’s Patina Spring Preview Party ticket sales and merchandise sold during our barn sale will be donated to CARE’s Ukraine Crisis Fund, which aims to reach 4 million in Ukraine with immediate aid and recovery, food, water, hygiene kits, psychosocial support and cash assistance, prioritizing women, girls, families and the elderly.

These events are both indoor and outdoor. The parking is field parking so if the weather looks like it’s going to be funky check their Facebook page or website.

Even if you don’t need to buy anything you may find a little something or a large something that you cannot live without. And you will enjoy every minute that you are there!

LOCATION: Willowbrook Farm, 1750 N Valley Rd, Malvern, PA 19355

look kids, it’s ronnie and he’s pretending today! he’s telling everyone about holocaust remembrance day….oh the irony….

So yesterday, Ronnie the Realtor switched back into his Stepford Wives for Totalitarianism superhero costume of Ronnie The Rep. (See yesterday’s post HERE.)

A day later, Vogel may indeed be running for 6th Congressional District
Michael P. Rellahan
PUBLISHED: April 27, 2022 at 5:25 p.m. | UPDATED: April 27, 2022 at 5:57 p.m.

A day after he announced the suspension of his campaign for the 6th Congressional District’s Republican nomination, candidate Ron Vogel is said to have decided to re-enter the race, butting up against Chester County GOP officials who objected to his candidacy because of controversial social media posts attributed to him, sources said.

On Wednesday, a representative of Vogel’s campaign confirmed to a MediaNews Group reporter that Vogel had changed his mind about suspending his campaign for the seat, and would continue running, even after saying Tuesday that his candidacy would not be in the “best interests” of his family and the Republican Party.

“That’s correct,” said Matt Braynard, a paid Washington, D.C., strategist with the Vogel campaign, in a brief telephone interview when asked if Vogel had decided to remain in the race. Braynard said a statement would be issued detailing Vogel’s thoughts, but as of press time, nothing had been received…It was upsetting to party leadership who had hoped to put the controversy surrounding Vogel and video and text messages attributed to him that contained elements of anti-Semitic messages, sexism and racially tinged language, first reported first by the MediaNews Group, in the rearview mirror….The dramatic announcement of Vogel’s suspension of his campaign came after concerns were raised in Republican Party circles about his candidacy. Past social media posts linked to Vogel featured former Nazi leader Adolf Hitler and racially tinged messages to friends, brought his past into question, and elevated worries about his campaign, those associated with the party said.

Daily Local/Michael Rellehan

So last evening Ronnie hung with his besties the Stepford Wives for Totalitarianism:

Today, however, Ronnie is remembering holocaust survivors but is he actually just pandering because his DC consultant undoubtedly knows that the head of the PA Republican Party is Jewish?

Well Ronnie, I have to ask if you know what people can’t forget about YOU?

Ronnie wants people to see images like:

Yet, more people seem to think things like this are more what he’s about:

So Ronnie are you listening to Rammstein on Holocaust Remembrance Day? Asking for the 6 million European Jewish people who died at the hands of the Nazis.

Ronnie is still around because the Chester County Republicans as in party leadership are allowing him to be around. They said censure, it’s time for censure. Has anyone asked Lawrence Tabas ? Mr. Tabas is the head of the PA GOP and a lawyer living in the Philadelphia area. He’s always been a good guy so hopefully he is appalled by this situation?

This is a lesson to both parties in Chester County. You can’t just run every person who is interested in running and you have to vet the candidates.

I vote for Ronnie the Resigner. As in NO MORE Ron the Rep candidate. I will further note that he is deleting comments on his page already. That is not something politicians can do. I have to ask is he is also blocking people at this point on his campaign page? The only comments he allows are his drooling sycophants.

Ron Vogel is being advised by Matt Braynard. A former Trump guy, literally.

Matt Braynard is a guy who pop-pooed January 6, 2021. Or more simplistically, really, it was okay . That event was not okay. Not by any stretch of the imagination.

Washington Post: Matt Braynard, former Trump campaign aide, nabs spotlight with Capitol crusade

By Ellie Silverman and Rachel Weiner
September 17, 2021 at 8:00 p.m. EDT

The last time Matt Braynard held a rally in D.C. to defend those arrested for storming the Capitol on Jan. 6, about 100 people showed up. But now Braynard is taking his protest outside the site of the insurrection, leading to heightened law enforcement and widespread media coverage.

He has the attention he has long sought, putting Washington on high alert for a rally he himself estimated hundreds, not thousands, would attend. But he doesn’t have the broad support of the far right as he seeks to position himself as one of its leaders.

Some of the members of Congress most outspoken in supporting Donald Trump and spreading false narratives around the Capitol attack are not attending. Trump himself told the Federalist the rally was a “setup,” adding people who showed up would “be harassed.” He didn’t mention Braynard, who briefly worked on his 2016 campaign.

Braynard, who as of last fall ran some of his efforts from a Northern Virginia apartment, has his own consulting firm and has worked for years in Republican polling and data analysis. But he has found a more public role supporting false narratives surrounding the 2020 election.

“He has taken it upon himself to try to embody the far right’s greater desire to rewrite the history of January 6 in a way that is more flattering to themselves,” said Jared Holt, a resident fellow at the Atlantic Council’s digital forensic research lab who researches domestic extremism.

After Trump lost reelection in 2020, Braynard began inserting himself into the former president’s universe, supporting both his false claims of election irregularities and those inspired to attack the Capitol to stop the supposed fraud.

So now you know, that’s who’s running Ronnie with campaign Tourette’s. And once again those who are in charge of the Chester County Republicans are allowing people from outside our area and even our state to interfere in general. It’s not just elections it’s everywhere.

So it makes perfect sense that Ronnie would be courting the Stepford Wives for Totalitarianism. They are birds of a feather if not anything else. The question for everyone in Chester County and the 6th congressional district is are you going to allow birds of a feather to take over our lives?

Our country was founded to run on a two party system. In my humble opinion both parties are freaking dysfunctional right now. But the Republican Party has the highest level of dysfunction because they are allowing themselves to be controlled by people that are literally not actually Republicans. Those people are the ones who are the actual RINOs or Republican in name only.

Eventually friends of mine who are Republicans are going to reach out to me and tell me how wrong I am. But I’m not. And I understand full well their frustration with the way the Chester County Republican Party is run out of West Chester. But supporting candidates who actually do not share their values and who will do more harm than good is worse than doing nothing at all.

Just say no. He won’t represent the plurality, he will represent mob mentality.

sometimes you’re in, sometimes you’re out…one day he’s ron the rep, next day he’s ron the realtor…

Ronnie the Realtor has made a Sybil-like reversal to Ronnie the Wannabe Rep again.

Yesterday we heard he was suspending his campaign. Yesterday we heard if he didn’t suspend his campaign the Chester County Republican Party was going to censure him. (Read about it HERE.)

So now it’s another day and Lil’ Ronnie has UN-suspended his campaign.

Ron Vogel Is Back In The Race For Congressional Seat By Holly Herman Patch

Posted Wed, Apr 27, 2022 at 2:15 pm ET
Updated Wed, Apr 27, 2022 at 2:25 pm ET

WEST CHESTER —Chester County Realtor Ron Vogel said this afternoon he is back in the race for the Republican nomination for the 6th Congressional District, after a 24-hour break.

Vogel, 36, of Chester Springs, said he suspended his campaign after publicity about old social media reports that were taken out of context.

“I am still in the race,” Vogel said. “I took a break to have a team huddle.”

“Team Huddle”?

Ok Chester County GOP you voted to censure him if he didn’t comply, so time to step up.

And I’m going to share some of the screenshots. These are woman hating and homophobic.

Yeah Ron, love is love if you actually know how to love. How does whom people choose to have as their life partners, husbands, wives, whatever affect your life personally?

I actually feel sorry for his family. Because I doubt any of them signed up for this.

This entire issue with this candidate shows you how weak and dysfunctional Chester County Republican Party actually is. I said already once this week that you would think they would have learned the consequences of not vetting candidates after the school board shit show as far as elections this past fall.

Enjoy your Waterloo, Ronnie boy. Or Battle of Berlin.

Somewhere, Lincoln is weeping.