
One reason why I am so sensitive to the issues that the Great Valley Middle School teachers and staff are experiencing now is because what Iâve experienced personally over the years.
Quite a few years ago now when the whole topic of cyber bullying and cyber harassment was coming up, I had a really bad cyber bully and cyber harasser. In truth, they were also cyber stalking me. They were doing it across state lines which presented real problems for them, so eventually they went away. That actually does fall under Federal laws vis-Ă -vis interstate communications. And as Iâve mentioned before one of the people that used to like what this person did is a current sitting politician in a community in Chester County.
Cyberbullying is more common than you may think. And for many teenagers, young adults, and social media users in general of many ages, it poses a very real threat. As well as emotional distress and anxiety.
People or should I say institutions like school districts, etc. pay lip service too even if itâs happening to kids. But they donât actually do that much and they actually could. But when this is happening to adults basically weâre just out there fending for ourselves.
Great Valley School District was hoping that East Whiteland Police Department would do their job for them. But whatâs happening is civilly not criminally actionable and they should still be supporting their teachers but basically theyâre playing duck and cover. In my humble opinion what weâre seeing now by reports of others attending school board meetings and reading agenda items for the school board, is you have a lot of teachers and staff starting to leave? Also, in my opinion? Thereâs a lot of questionable spending going on and taxpayers pay for that but thatâs not the reason for this post.
I know what itâs like to experience what these teachers have experienced because Iâve experienced it on a different level. Iâve even had a woman post a photo of me in a hospital gown before breast cancer surgery like a wanted poster asking who I am.
Iâve had people on three different occasions, create fake pages distorting what I write, and harassing and bullying me. And all of those things have all been taken down.
This is why when people start, and it goes beyond a comment or a simple opposing point of view as in a conversation, that I just block people. I block people because I have the experience to know where this is going. And itâs a personal choice. People may wish to interact with you, but you donât have to interact with them. It is that simple. ďżź
And these people who come after me, are men and women.
When I was writing about that historic trestle bridge out towards Downingtown, which people refer to as the âsuicide bridgeâ, I experienced someone who couldnât just have an opposing point of view. It got to the point that their comments were really uncomfortable and really unpleasant, so I simply blocked them.
Then they popped up on NextDoor. NextDoor sadly is where the evolution of social media went off the rails. People post things publicly, including their address and their phone numbers because they mistakenly think itâs private. Itâs also the platform where you see people who have been thrown off of other platforms go to post. In some regards, itâs sociologically fascinating.
Anyway, the person I blocked on Facebook because of the uncomfortable comments and vitriol directed towards me about the trestle bridge is on NextDoor. He was someone I forgot existed until he started popping up in my private messages.

I had forgotten who he was. But then he kept messaging me and it all came back. So this person was now contacting me in completely unsolicited manner and his biggest beef is I blocked him on social media on another platform? I mean youâre supposed to be an adult right? So move on why do you care so much about me one person? This is not a friend, or even an acquaintance, or former coworker, ďżź itâs a complete stranger. ďżź
So now this person supports any comment that is negative towards me about anything I might post on NextDoor.
Blocking people is a way to chose not to interact with someone. And guess what? Itâs okay. Really.
Now on social media, there are no nos with blocking. For example, you canât be in a group and block the admins and moderators. Their unpaid job is to keep groups running smoothly according to their rules.
Now, ironically, thereâs one group that comes to mind in particular, thatâs a lifestyle group where the actual admin and group owner blocks a lot of the people in the group. That way the group could keep up with the numbers and claim popularity but they donât have to interact with comments they donât like. But thatâs their right, which is why for a couple of years when I was in this self-proclaimed influencer or public figureâs group I didnât know it was their group because they blocked me and how crazy is that?
So then thereâs this other person. They do work for developers whose plans I have not liked in a subcontracting capacity. So I know going into it, theyâre not going to be fond of me and thatâs fine.
But this next person started the bizarre habit of commenting on things on LinkedIn, which is essentially a professional platform. I never replied to any of the comments, except maybe like the first one and I kind of was like thank you for your opinion because I didnât really know what else to say. But I found them basically stalking my profile there odd, so I thought the path of least resistance is just to remove him from being able to access my profile. So he was blocked.
Then I noticed an uptick of profiles from his company were also looking constantly at my profile. I also found that strange as it had never happened prior to this. Itâs also a company I never paid attention to locally. I never knew they existed really before this. And I donât care about them now. ďżź
So now this person has discovered me on Nextdoor and doesnât understand why itâs problematic that all of a sudden heâs commenting on my posts. Heâs not commenting because he cares about the topic, heâs commenting to be a dissenting voice because I wrote the post. That is a form of cyber bullying or cyber harassment.

So I called this person out on it. Now Iâm done.
No one has to like what someone else writes but when it feels like they go out of their way to hunt people down on different platforms because of what they say about or care about and not because they are a politician, or a self-professed, public figure or an influencer or anything theyâre just an ordinary person, itâs wrong. And weird.




I get that itâs human nature to be curious, but it is also making me wonder if it is so ingrained societally that itâs now becoming the norm to just harass people you donât like for whatever reason on social media. You know like those teachers at Great Valley Middle School.
This other person has no horse in this race literally. If I had not written the originating post, he would not have commented.
I guess my point is adults do this every day, so we shouldnât be surprised the middle schoolers also do it. The difference is adults are old enough to know better. And adults need to impress upon minors that this is not acceptable behavior.
Only a lot of these adults? They donât think their behavior has to change. They will tell you that theyâre only expressing their opinion. But if they are following people from one social media platform to the next, is that normal? I donât think it is, especially if itâs not someone you actually know in the real world in some capacity.
Iâm not a celebrity, Iâm not a public figure, Iâm just one woman. I have never said I was perfect, but like anyone else I donât want to put up with abusive behavior or what I perceive as abusive behavior.
Cyber bullying and cyber harassment is sadly a regular every day thing. They barely do anything about what is happening to our kids with regard to this, but they definitely do much less when it comes to protecting adults.
That is why if somebodyâs making you feel uncomfortable and you can block them, thatâs your personal choice. And itâs no big deal. NextDoor as a platform doesnât offer a complete block and they should.
This is just my point of view on a topic I feel strongly about, you can agree or disagree with me and Iâm happy to have a conversation, but donât be like these men or Great Valley Middle Schoolers, itâs creepy.
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